Hi BkGirl.
This is Matt at Brondell. I'm sorry you don't like the seat. It sounds like you were expecting something different from what you purchased. The only way to have adjustable nozzle positions and more control of water pressure is by using an electronic bidet seat. This bidet operates on water pressure only so nozzle positions are fixed because of that and water pressure is dependent on the water pressure in your home. When used properly, kept clean, and cleaned as recommended, bidets help people avoid UTI because cleaning the body with water is much more effective than using paper.
Respectfully,
-Matt
(Brondell Customer Support)